Nurture the Seed and it will Blossom. I saw these words on an add on my FB page for planting a native tree. I couldn’t help but relate this to raising a child. What a beautiful metaphor. You may not have been nurtured the way you needed as a child but you can nurture yourself …
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Your Mental and Emotional Warrant-of-Fitness #5 Assertiveness
(A Warrant-of-Fitness is the New Zealand equivalent of an M.O.T. in the UK, being a certificate to say your vehicle is road worthy.) Assertiveness is that sweet spot, where you can speak up about your needs or opinions. You are neither passive nor aggressive, the two opposites on the continuum of communication styles. To be …
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Can I have a dose of self-discipline please?
I made myself laugh out loud today when I was thinking about my writing. The neighbours probably think I’m crazy walking about, talking and laughing away to myself! But the older I get the less I care what others think. For example, I have low tolerance for technology not doing what I want it to …
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Spring has Sprung!
Spring in my courtyard As I write this, I’m aware that some of you lovely readers are in the Northern Hemisphere and are embarking on their autumnal journey, another glorious season, filled with colours and different experiences. Spring has sprung early here in New Zealand. Although today is only the 2nd day of spring “officially”, …
The Great Unwind
Autumn reflections, Christchurch Botanical Gardens, New Zealand It’s National Poetry Day here in New Zealand and I forgot about it enough to not be involved, which I’m a bit sad about. I call myself “an accidental poet” because this type of writing was never my intended genre. I was sure I was intended for more …
Writers Dilemma
Write something every day To stay in the flow Is what they say. A verse, a poem A line or two You’ll be surprised What the Universe Will write through you. Turn up to the page Put pen to paper Do it now Instead of later. Don’t worry about it sounding silly A rhyme, a …
Stop Shoulding on Yourself!
Mental and Emotional Warrant-of-Fitness #4 I’m writing from a bit more of a personal perspective this week as I’m trying to practice what I preach by listening to myself. Balancing the desire of my heart to be there for others with the reality of what I can manage without the wheels falling off is a …
Your Mental and Emotional Warrant-of-Fitness
(A Warrant-of-Fitness is New Zealand’s version of car roadworthy inspection like the M.O.T in UK) #3 People pleasing and Boundaries Healthy boundaries = Healthy relationships Difficulty setting boundaries and saying “no” are common traits, particularly for adult children of alcoholics or those who’ve experienced abuse or neglect in childhood (neglect IS abuse by the way). …
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Your Mental and Emotional Warrant-of-Fitness #2 Boundary Building Strategies
(A Warrant-of-Fitness is New Zealand’s version of car roadworthy inspection like the M.O.T in UK) Last week I talked about how boundaries are fundamental to mental and emotional health and wellbeing. Guilt and fear are two things that get in the way of us setting boundaries to protect ourselves, our time, resources and things that …
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Loving Yourself out of Self-Doubt
Self-doubt is like a cloud, it obscures our path, our vision, like a smoke-screen that we put there ourselves. Self-doubt is the silent killer of unborn dreams and comes like a thief in the night. I awoke this morning thinking about a dream I had. In the dream a writing mentor told me that I …
Words from the Lighthouse 