Sacred Letters of the Soul:If you were to truly love and accept yourself, what would you be doing differently?

If I were…………………. Writing letters that you are not going to send can be a really healing and connecting experience. They can transmute experiences: "change in form, nature or substance" the dictionary says. I invite you to write a Sacred Letter to yourself asking the question, “If I were truly loving and accepting myself I …

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“You are a guest of nature. Behave.” Freidrich Hundertwasser      Peel Forest, Canterbury, New Zealand. December 2022                                                              I am part of nature And nature is part of me The same energy that grows my hair Grows trees The energy that makes birds sing And the oceans roar Is the same life force That I live …

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10 + Reasons why you keep getting into Abusive or Toxic Relationships, and NONE of those reasons is, “I’m stupid”

You have unresolved trauma around relationships, probably from your family of origin, when you may have been abused or neglected (neglect IS abuse) or love was conditional and scarce. It was what was modelled to you in your formative years, perhaps you witnessed domestic violence (this too is abuse to a child), therefore a template …

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Your Mental and Emotional Warrant-of-Fitness #5 Assertiveness

(A Warrant-of-Fitness is the New Zealand equivalent of an M.O.T. in the UK, being a certificate to say your vehicle is road worthy.) Assertiveness is that sweet spot, where you can speak up about your needs or opinions. You are neither passive nor aggressive, the two opposites on the continuum of communication styles. To be …

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