New Brighton beach, Christchurch, New Zealand These words came to me when I was walking on the beach today, hoping to gain clarity and peace. A family situation has plunged myself and other family members into emotional turmoil. Walking on the beach may not change the situation but it can change my brain chemistry and …
Author: Karen Lighthouse
CHRISTMAS……………………..
“Deck the halls with boughs of holly” Not everyone feels jolly. Christmas What does that word evoke for you? For me it’s a confusing time of year. Acutely aware of losses The absence of living parents Crumbling “happy families”. Disconnected from the Christmas’s of my youth Snow Long dark nights Tinsel and lights The chaos …
Look how far you’ve come!
As we career towards the end of another year it can be affirming to step back and reflect on just how far we’ve come, what we’ve endured, overcome and achieved, as well as where to from here. Both personally and professionally, I have ridden the emotional roller-coaster of the pandemic as we all have to …
Nomad
Photo by Mark Basarab on Unsplash NOMAD Don’t fall in love with a nomad He’ll surely break your heart Don’t fall in love with a nomad It’s doomed from the start. Don’t fall in love with a nomad He travels far and wide Wrapped up in his arms You’ll fall for his charms He’s just in it for …
10 + Reasons why you keep getting into Abusive or Toxic Relationships, and NONE of those reasons is, “I’m stupid”
You have unresolved trauma around relationships, probably from your family of origin, when you may have been abused or neglected (neglect IS abuse) or love was conditional and scarce. It was what was modelled to you in your formative years, perhaps you witnessed domestic violence (this too is abuse to a child), therefore a template …
Your Mental and Emotional Warrant-of-Fitness #8 Congruence – Being in Harmony with Yourself
(A Warrant-of-Fitness is the New Zealand equivalent of an M.O.T. in the UK, being a certificate to say your vehicle is road worthy.) Do you ever find yourself saying “yes” to something or someone when you really want to say,” no”? Do you have a niggling feeling in your stomach, or maybe it’s even a …
It’s OK to not be OK…….
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“Everything will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end” John Lennon
OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA. Karen Lighthouse © Karen Lighthouse 2022 Namaste. Thanks for reading and take care until next time. If you liked what you read please leave a comment below, like or subscribe to receive my weekly posts straight to your email. Words by Karen Lighthouse. I also offer – One-on-one counselling/coaching via Zoom Group …
Continue reading “Everything will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end” John Lennon
Letters to your ex you’ll never send
We’ve all experienced heartbreak, and who enjoys it? No-one! When a relationship finishes our feelings don’t just automatically stop. So, what do you do with them then? Options: Stuff them down (your feelings), bottle them up, try and pretend you’re OK by putting on a brave face. Mope around, telling everyone who’ll listen (and many …
Hello from the Other Side
New Zealand Fern unfurling - a symbol of hope and new life Don’t live your life by default If you were abused It’s not your fault You can live a life Free from pain Breaking the cycle Again and again. Reach out And start to love yourself With therapy Writing And self-help The future …